If you're like me, you're probably pretty anxious. And perfectionistic. And REALLY good at it. Being tightly wound and anticipating disaster has served us well (ish). We have an edge to see all of the pitfalls before they happen. We are driven to prepare, and over-prepare, and re-prepare again. Unless we get the inkling that we can’t do a perfect job…then we AH VOID. We do it all or we do none of it. But which is it? Are we excellent or failures? How can we absolutely SHINE in some areas and fall so miserably short in others? And why does the shine wear off so freaking fast? Why can’t we just be perfect? Our perfectionism serves as a mask to hide the fact that we only feel worthy when we excel. Which we often do, or at least used to. We can only take a breath once everything is “just so.” Those moments are So. Very. Fleeting. Then we find ourselves back in the ugly cycle. Thinking. Planning. Preparing. Analyzing. Before it happens. While it’s happening. After it already happened. We narrow in on the micro moments and overanalyze the hell out of them. If we get the requisite amount of “atta girls” and everything went smoothly, then maybe we can feel peace. Then we wake up and start all over. Here’s the thing: Most therapists will help you identify and challenge those anxious thoughts. They will encourage you to avoid “black and white thinking” and encourage you to believe that you are “good enough.” And that does help. But something even more powerful is sitting with someone who gets it because they live it. Someone who recognizes the power in the anxiety and perfectionism and doesn’t try to just make it go away. Someone who helps you understand where it came from, how it helps, how it hurts, and how to accept and love on the rough parts. I can be in the “suck” with you and remind you that it’s all going to be ok and you are already enough–even when you don’t feel like it. I’m here to help you access your inner quiet and wisdom.